I was talking to a friend of mine and she said, as she was sitting right beside me, exhausted. Sally goes to me, “I have to work tonight”.
Huh! I thought you just worked the job we are at. Sally said, no, I have three jobs. A full time job, a part-time job and a job if I need hours, they give them to me…
I said to her, that is a lot of hours. Sally says, that she works about 70 hours a week. I asked her why? Well, Sally says, “ I have to pay my bills, then my sons bills and I’m helping my daughter too. I asked her, “How old are your kids?” She said that one is 26 and the other is 32….
I giggled and asked her, why are you paying their bills? Sally tells me, they can’t find jobs. So, for how long have they been looking? About 5 years…
The last thing she says to me, I’m broke to…
I want to ask everyone, How many of you are paying other people bills instead of yours? How many people are stuck in this situation? How many of you are so in debt because you are paying other people’s bills?
The average American works 41.5 hours a week. The average person over 50 works 52 hours per week. Now if you have adult kids, that are over 18 years old, why are you paying their bills?
As Sally and I, deeply started talking about bill and debt. 60% of her bills are not hers. That is 60%. Now what is wrong with this picture?
There is a lot of ways we can take this conversation. And I’m sure you are helping your kids to be better adults in more than many ways. But there has to be a point when you need to stop.
I help my family a lot with money but I’ve also learned when to say no. No, mean NO!
Sally is in debt because of her adult kids not pitching in to help in her situation. Sally wants to retire and wants to start taking it easy in life and start enjoying life more. But because of how her adult kids are using her. She just doesn’t know what to do.
After a couple of weeks of talking to her and she finally got her strength up and kick her kids out and told them to start growing up. She has quit her part-time job and is starting to live life again.
So is the debt that you have building up is it because you are paying other people bills? Can you really tell the person you are paying their bills, to go get a job? Are you ready to get out debt?
